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The title of this page interests me, and I thought that I would love to share this video which I saw before in one of my lectures for another module.



I feel that the lyrics of this song is interesting, and it really reflects most of the Singaporean mothers' experiences in bringing up their children. Well, seldom do we see our fathers nagging and attending to our very personal needs, as the society largely views this as a woman's responsibility. Personally, my mum is a homemaker and she is the one who has been in charge of the domestic affairs, and of course, supervising our ( my brother and I) homework and fetching us from our extra lessons since young. She quitted her job right after I was born, and my dad has been the breadwinner of the family ever since. To this, I feel that males are usually expected to provide for the family, while women are usually the ones who are expected to scale back on their careers in order to take on child caring responsibilities. Perhaps this may be one of the reasons to which why companies, especially SMEs do not prefer to hire females, as they cannot afford to have workers who get pregnant and to be on maternal leave and benefits. In all, I think that this video has indeed reflects the societal expectations of what a woman should do, as well as the ideology of intensive mothering.

More great videos on this theme:

Kid's response to the Mom Song..




And one for the DADs...




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codoll21 Challenging the traditional roles of family and gender notions 1 Apr 8 2009, 12:48 PM EDT by jamie.
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“With a bit of exaggeration one could say, ‘anything goes’… Marriage can be subtracted from sexuality, and that in turn from parenthood; parenthood can be multiplied by divorce, and the whole thing can be divided by living together or apart” (Beck, 1992:116). I read this article when I was surfing the net this evening.

I feel that there is a constant weakening of concerning ties and relationship between the family and gender roles. The individual now has a far wider range of acceptable choice of conduct and this can seen in the decline of motherhood as women’s autonomy have increased the costs of marriage and motherhood. The societal move towards greater liberalism concerning marriage, sex and family behavior have led to depictions of a contemporary ‘risk’ society.

In this new age of individualism, what entails for the family and preconceived notions with regards to gender roles, I believe there is no certainty about this. Ideologies have constantly been changing, gender patterns of domestic behavior are also changing, simply because the society takes on a new form every single day. In a way that, women are changing a lot faster than men to adapt to the changing and evolving needs of our society.

Although there are instances where governmental policies can help shift expectations and this may in turn lead to the acceptance of future efforts from the public to reduce gender inequalities. For example, paternity leave in Britain is far more significant than any other work entitlements.

However, the general practice has been that ideas revolving around family and gender roles have been skewed and stereotyped. Just take a look at the traditional women’s roles and the biasness that they face by the control and management of resources by men in the family. Given the deep rootedness of such ideals, they can hardly be changed and challenged.

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princessLaLa Gender and our family 3 Apr 6 2009, 1:27 PM EDT by jamie.
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a very big socialization agent is the family itself, and although we probably like to think at home we are 'safe' from gendered notions and practices, i think it is very much alive and perpetuating our lifestyle and choices from young. of course, each person's experience will vary according to race, religion, tradition and custom, values, even something as subjective as the characters of those we are exposed to e.g. our parents/ relatives.

Coming from a family where i had no brothers, it was perhaps less obvious to me at that time. but on hindsight i realise we establish gendered ideas from young--for instance, as a child i always went to my mum if i wanted someone to tie my hair, never my dad (haha bad experience maybe).

anyway, i thought this might prove to be an interesting discussion, especially as a function of the above factors i mentioned (i.e. race, etc). also we can all learn a bit more about how different families are shaped and shape themselves around gender 'ideals'.

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